my sister accuses of stealing her meds ( percocet )

Discussion in 'Pain Relief - Chronic Pain - Pain Meds' started by Claude, Dec 7, 2019.


How would you best deal with a situation like this?

  1. Give her whole bottle and let her deal with it herself

    4 vote(s)
  2. Lower her dose when she's acting up

    15 vote(s)
  1. Claude

    Claude Level 2 active citizen

    Went to the doc today with my sister. I have basically been giving her one weeks worth of medications at a time because she pretty much snorts them or crush them and mix them with water. She stopped taking her baseline medications and just goes for the Percocet now. She has enough to take 4 pills/ day. I made the mistake of checking her pills one week and she had taken most of the weeks worth--it's one of those daily medication containers. I figured that she could get by on 3 a day the last week of the month. I even cut those in half. Well she told the doctor today that I had been taking her medications and SELLING them. I almost fell out of the chair since that wasnt the case. The doc said "are you serious?" and she said "yes". The doctor looked at me long and hard and she must have seen the shocked look on my face and decided not to pursue it--I hope. I expect the police to come knocking on my door anytime for drug trafficking and I guess medcare fraud. I feel so betrayed after what I have done to make sure her life is comfortable. Basically I think she just wanted the PC to MAKE me give her the whole bottle of pills. That's what she wants is to just have that whole bottle at her disposal. NEVER gonna happen as long as Im around, the doc agrees with me that she should just be given one week at a time or it would get out of control in a minute. She take them if she has a headache or to sleep or I guess just for the energy and buzz. I haven't been on here in a while, SO busy at work, but I just wanted to get that off my chest. I feel so sad and betrayed. Just for the record--I would like to scare the heck out of my sister so she gets the point--what would they do to me if they suspect I was taking her medications and selling them. I see people on the news all the time for selling medications paid for by medicare and the like. I'm not worried at all (because I'm not doing anything with her medications) but giving them to her in a controlled manner. Yeah I did take a pill here and there but it is what it is I guess - Frankly I have just about had it with her behavior and I'm probably going to move the meds out of the house heh next she starts to act up again, she yelled at me a few nights ago thinking I had took 7 pills when she probably had taken them all and couldnt recall the next morning. shes also on rohypnol (flunitrazepam) btw I am just about done with this!
  2. 168HP

    168HP Level 1 active citizen citizen

    Does your sister have any type of dementia? This kind of behavior could be from that. On the other hand it sounds like she has a physical tolerance and/or addiction symptoms. When you go into doctor next time bring the bottle and show a pill account with its matching logs of when you placed them in her daily planner. More work for sure but maybe she doesn't remember taking them and it seems logical to her that you stole her meds.

    Good luck and best wishes.
  3. Math

    Math Level 1 active citizen citizen

    My guess she will not remember to keep track. Either lower her dose if she is hard to deal with, or buy a medication dispenser. There are different designs out there and cheap too if you need to go that route:rolleyes:
  4. Admin

    Admin Level 9 Administrator

    @Claude ,You really have no business managing pills for your sister and more so if she obviously has not given her permission for you to do it. She may be your sister but she is also an adult human being... All this talk of making her beg for pills ,lowering her dose and holding back her meds is ridiculous... I am actually surprised by the current results of the poll; Just give the pills the doctor prescribed for your sister to your sister, End of story.
  5. Luxembourg1

    Luxembourg1 Level 2 active citizen

    it really depends on what the concerns are with the OPs sister. If the sister is suffering from dementia, the OP is doing the right thing. If the sister has addiction issues, the OP needs to go the other route. As life is complex, it is most likely a little bit of both. My brother had dementia for about 3 of the 5 years he was ill. For him, a big issue was retaining control over his life but that improved after a few years. Good luck everyone!
  6. RocketGhost

    RocketGhost Level 1 active citizen citizen

    Admin, Without knowing the whole story, or knowing how competent the sister is, I won't say Claude has no business managing her sisters medications. if he do not keep her under control she could end up in the hospital, dead or whatever... When memory loss or confusion sets in, people can do alot of harm to themselves with medication mismanagement. But i do agree about not giving her the whole bottle before she's ready - that would not accomplish anything. The sister needs constant reinforcement and reeducation before she can be trusted. That's my humble opinion.
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  7. ChillOutDude

    ChillOutDude Level 1 active citizen citizen

    When I spotted behavior issues with my wife I would call the physician prior to an scheduled appointment and tell them about the issues. The Doctor really values the input because often the affected person doesn't tell them every single thing. Sounds like your sister needs to be put on a long acting pain medicine with just a few short acting for breakthru pain. Her medical professional needs to know about the unusual accusations as well.
  8. Mumbai0

    Mumbai0 Level 1 citizen

    Unfortunately sometimes we can't help everyone. But that's not to say we shouldn't. A cousin of mine was dependant on certain drugs, and we had to get him help. He became a risk to himself, so we had to do something, otherwise he could have died. It got to the point where he had to be put into a mental hospital due to severe drug abuse.

    It's hard to say if it's right or wrong, because your sister is an adult person and is in control of her life. But when it comes to it, I think it's best to get the help needed and try and save her. That's how I feel anyway.
  9. LAcounty

    LAcounty Level 1 active citizen citizen

    Oh better bring your sister to a doctor. It will not be good for her to take so much medicine. Maybe she is suffering other mental issues as well that should be brought to attention.
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  10. HighTowerTX

    HighTowerTX Level 2 active citizen

    Without understanding your sister's physical, psychological condition, it's very hard to advise what might really be going on. However, from what you've written, it sounds like your sister is exhibiting many of the signs of bad behavior. Therefor she needs to be put down. If she is lying, manipulating, totally ignoring dosing instructions, and accusing others of stealing and selling her pills, she has an issue that needs to be addressed by her doctor sooner rather than later. Remember the old saying about how, as time goes by, the lion becomes a fox and the fox becomes the beast N,the KING OF THE JUNGLE.
  11. ProffessorOz

    ProffessorOz Level 1 citizen

    If that was my sister I'l take photos of the medications and her current state, and drive her off to a safe but secure area, in order to sober up. then request pics as evidence before any supplyes could be granted.
  12. RayQ

    RayQ Level 1 active citizen citizen

    That may just be the most reasonable thing, but she would need a doctor that stops by ... Anyone NOT concerned about her... I agree with other posters, take her meds from her or put her in a rowboat without a paddle this is not Claude's entire responsibility. And its likely better for both of you if you are not in charge of this. Take a step back Claude, and reflect, maybe get a doctor involved for a checkup think of other areas for getting max help, for the sister...
    Last edited: Jul 10, 2020
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  13. J McAfee

    J McAfee Level 1 active citizen citizen

    I 'd speak to her doc, and not let her get to the pills for a while. If she runs out 2 weeks early and starts flipping out, she needs to be put down her only resort is to see the doctor or agree to pill managing by others.
  14. dustspooky393

    dustspooky393 Level 1 citizen active citizen

    My sister was not clinically diagnosed with Alzheimer's until she had it for many years. I knew something was completely wrong. She would pass out because she would take four doses of her blood pressure medications. So when she still wanted to be on her own we got one of those pill holders and we would divide the pills every day. That made her healthier. So she would have all medications she was to take on Tuesday and all week long. Each slot had her drugs for each day Before that she was passing out because she forgot what she took. That worked well along with a necklace she wore and she could push a button and get help right away.
  15. energyKing

    energyKing Level 1 citizen active citizen

    What about talking to the physician about a pain pump? That way it has control instead of you, her, or anybody else. This way she can hit the button all she wants and it will only give her what she requires.
  16. levis3

    levis3 Level 1 active citizen citizen

    I may be wrong, but your sister doesn't necessarily sound like she is a retard, but maybe just "addicted". I seriously wonder if she ran out early, what would happen. I like some of the suggestions here too. At the end of the day, you can't keep on battling with your sister about her medications.
  17. DuckOnTheRun

    DuckOnTheRun Level 1 citizen

    They did this with my Grandsister. She had not been addicted. The physician put her on a pump and she did fine because it will only give them the medicine only when she was ready

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